How to Control a Submissive Male
How To Control A Submissive Male
Chastity and Orgasm Denial:
Orgasm denial (also known as orgasm control and erotic sexual denial) is a sexual practice in which a person is kept in an elevated state of arousal for extended periods of time, but denied the gratifying release of orgasm.
Tease and denial provides both physical and psychological pleasure, but it is the latter that inspires the majority of players to really indulge their desires. It is a fantasy, an idea that some find incredibly arousing and although some of us may share common themes within our fantasies, our tastes may differ somewhat in the details. When it comes to orgasm denial, an example of this difference is the opposing desires of those who prefer to be given a clearly defined date for their next release and those who get their thrills from not knowing. There are as many different ways to experience orgasm denial as there are people enjoying this kink and this is why it is so important to keep communicating, sharing ideas and ultimately tailoring your tease and denial sessions to suit you both.
To really get the most out of your chastity, or orgasm control experiences, you want to sit down and think about what aspects really turn you and your partner on. Some enthusiasts get a huge kick out of submitting and their fantasy might be having their orgasms controlled by another person, or being told when they are allowed pleasure and in what way it will be given. Some may simply get a huge kick out of the pleasure they feel when kept in a heightened state of arousal and enjoy being edged for a few hours during their sex sessions, while other orgasm control fans may wish to be kept in chastity and be denied for hours, even days at a time. There are those who get a thrill out of being frustrated or humiliated and those who enjoy orgasm denial alone, or in a long distance relationship. As you can see, there are many nuances within the fantasy of orgasm denial and each person will require a different method of teasing. There is not a “One True Way”.
With that being said, a large part of the battle (especially with extended tease and denial sessions.) is having to constantly come up with new and exciting ways to keep the arousal levels high, or the enthusiasm alive. By its very nature, tease and denial does require a little imagination to keep things smouldering. With that in mind, I decided to come up with an article listing lots of ideas to help you and your partner enjoy your orgasm denial experience for a long time to come. The problem was that I had so many ideas, that this post began to turn into a novel. I therefore decided to add the following slider into this post, which contains many ideas for you to incorporate into your own sessions.
Why do men enjoy chastity and orgasm denial?
There are so many different answers to this question. Sexuality is so diverse that there is no “one size fits all” answer, but generally, orgasm denial and chastity is a fantasy, a fetish or a lifestyle choice for the people who enjoy this type of play. Some couples enjoy the power dynamic involved with orgasm denial. The partner in control of the other's pleasure (Who I will refer to as the dominant, for simplicity.) may enjoy having this power and control over another. The submissive partner may be turned on by giving up this control. Some dominants and submissives feel that denial helps focus the attention of the submissive, increasing their desire for intimacy, affection and submission. While this may be the driving force for some, it is worth noting that submission and orgasm denial are two separate desires. You cannot ‘make’ someone submissive through orgasm denial if they genuinely are not submissive by nature or desire anyway. Likewise, D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships do not require orgasm denial for it to be “The one True Way”.
You can still enjoy orgasm denial without being submissive, dominant, or even involved in a BDSM relationship. For these couples, the thrill might be in the tease. There can be nothing sexier, surely, than teasing your partner for hours, even days, knowing that they are desperately turned on and ready to explode, and keeping them in this heightened state of arousal for a while, knowing that when they do eventually climax, it will be all the more intense, satisfying and rewarding for you both. In that period of teasing, every touch feels much more intense and every thought gets the blood pumping. Many people enjoy being teased. Some only enjoy it for a few hours, before negative frustration kicks in, while others find bliss in extending this teasing over days. There is no right or wrong way to play. Only what feels good for you and your partner. Chastity and orgasm denial can also be a lifestyle choice. For example, the Taoist belief is that men should withhold their ejaculate and this will energise and fortify him.
How can I experience orgasm denial?
As with any desires, it is important to communicate your thoughts with your partner, if you want to enjoy them together. If you are comfortable talking openly about your fantasies, you can grow together. Never force your desires onto another though. If your partner is not interested, you have to respect that decision.
A great way to introduce orgasm denial into your relationship is to experiment together with teasing and edging. Rather than partaking in sexual activity with orgasm as the main goal, the journey is now the highlight. You can experiment, finding new ways to tease your partner until their arousal levels are very high, and then reduce that stimulation, allowing their arousal to build and fall, like a wave, until they can’t take it anymore.. If your partner craves orgasm denial, and understands what they are letting themselves in for, you can take it further and deny them that final release, but it is worth remembering that orgasm denial can produce strong emotions and if your partner is new to this type of play, it could be too intense if you jump straight into the deep end. I would suggest that you do not make any rules at first and just experiment together until you discover the most suitable form of denial for you.
Methods of orgasm denial:
Edging:
Edging, as the name suggests is the act of taking yourself, or your lover, to the brink of orgasm, to the point just before control is lost, and stopping all stimulation. If your timing is right, the sensation of impending orgasm will fade and orgasm will not occur. Edging can be very intense and it does take a little practice to master, but once you become aware of your own point of no return, (The moment where you have begun to tip over and have lost control, meaning you cannot stop the orgasm.) it becomes easier to know exactly when to stop all stimulation. Of course, accidents still happen. You can practise edging as little or as often as you wish and edging your partner in sessions, over a period of days, weeks or months can leave them feeling constantly aroused, frustrated and in need of a release.
Ruined orgasm:
A ruined orgasm, as the name suggests, is an orgasm that was not enjoyable and these occur when you push yourself, or your partner just a fraction beyond the point of no return and then stop all stimulation or cause discomfort. (See “How to ruin an orgasm” below) Ruined orgasms do not feel as intense or as satisfying as full orgasms do. Often there will be less, or no, orgasmic contractions and the orgasmic sensations will feel weak and fade away very quickly. Men may still ejaculate semen, but often it will dribble or ooze out, rather than squirt. The person on the receiving end of a ruined orgasm will often enter their refractory period; the recovery phase normally associated with a normal orgasm, where the penis, or clitoris is too sensitive to touch and men may lose their erection. In some cases it will be possible to continue stimulation after a ruined orgasm, allowing you to continue and build towards orgasm again. It is therefore possible to give your partner numerous ruined orgasms in one session. Ruined orgasms will leave your submissive feeling frustratingly unsatisfied and are often used by a Dominant as a method of milking a submissive male, allowing him to release semen, without the pleasure of orgasm.
How can I ruin an orgasm?
Stopping all stimulation just after your submissive hits the ‘point of no return’ is one of the easiest, safest ways to provide an unsatisfying, weak orgasm with few muscle contractions. The hard part is finding the precise moment to stop stimulation. If you stop too soon, your partner will ride the edge, but not tip over. Worse still (For those of us hoping to deny pleasure) is stimulating your partner for a few seconds too long, which will allow them to experience a more enjoyable orgasm than you wanted to provide. To ruin an orgasm using this technique, you can ask your partner to tell you when they are right on the edge. This gives you the power to hold them there, or push them over with one or two more strokes. This method is great for getting started, but might not be ideal if you do not want your partner to be in control. After all, some cheeky sub may allow you to continue stimulation for a few seconds too long, because they want the orgasm. With practice, you will become a master at reading your partner's verbal and physical cues that tell you orgasm is approaching, allowing you to control things fully.
Another way to ruin an orgasm is through pain. (Be sure to communicate with your partner and agree to this before you try these techniques) Slapping or flicking the clitoris, glans of the penis or the testicles, is not only shocking, but uncomfortable too and if this is done at the point of no return, it can be effective at ruining an orgasm in most people. Just be sure to slap hard enough to cause a little pain, otherwise you are just playing with it and we don’t want that, do we? It is also worth bearing in mind that for some people, pain IS pleasure and if they generally enjoy genital pain, then this method could cause them to have a very enjoyable orgasm.
With some males, restricting the release of his semen will frustratingly ruin his orgasm and can feel uncomfortable. (It should not be painful.) Ruining his orgasm in this way can be achieved by either squeezing the penis around the base, or just underneath the glans, or putting your finger or thumb over his urethra at the point of no return, effectively blocking the flow of semen. Keep holding until all muscle contractions and spasms have stopped and those orgasmic sensations have ended. When you remove your hand, or finger, a small amount of semen may dribble from his penis, while some of the semen may have gone into the bladder (Retrograde ejaculation) The semen is passed out when he urinates, which may give his urine a cloudy appearance. There are mixed opinions on whether forcing retrograde ejaculation is safe. I have read articles from some professionals stating it will not cause any problems and others saying it could. I am no doctor, so do your own research on this and decide for yourself whether this practice is safe for you or your partner.
Some tease and denial ideas to get you started:
There are many games you can play with dice. You could assign each number on the dice to mean something. A three could mean that they have to edge 3 times and then stop for the day. A 5 could signify no touching allowed at all and a four could allow them an orgasm. Simply roll it every day before you play. I recommend buying two dice, if you fancy being more creative and reducing their chances of orgasm. You can also play this game with a pack of cards.
Allow your partner the opportunity to orgasm, but only from certain stimulation, like a feather, or by humping the arm of a chair. Just be aware that with an exceptionally aroused partner, they might actually be able to achieve this. Set them a certain amount of time and if you ensure that the stimulation (or time) is not quite enough, it will lead to a frustrating attempt or even a ruined orgasm on their part.
Using a timer, you could allow your partner the opportunity to orgasm, but only if they reach orgasm within X amount of time. (Ensure to count down the seconds or minutes out loud occasionally, to put the pressure on and break their focus.) You could even allow them to “earn” time throughout the week, for good deeds or tasks completed, or allow them to earn 30 seconds or 1 minute per day that passes and let them choose when to cash in their time. They will want to ensure they have stored up enough time and so will effectively be denying themselves.
Tell your partner that they can’t stimulate their genitals in any way, until they have given you X amount of orgasms first. Just remember that the higher the count, the longer they wait and they will be keen to pleasure you often.
Games to get you started:
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Give your partner permission to orgasm, but only allow them to do this while masturbating to porn that they would find humiliating or a major turn off. (An example would be to ask a straight male to watch male-on-male porn) If he reaches orgasm, tease him, if not, make him wait until next time.
Sweet Frustration...
If your partner wears a chastity device, place the key into a large bottle of water and freeze it the day before they are due for release. When the time comes, hand the frozen bottle over and tell them that they can let themselves out, just as soon as the ice melts and the key has been freed (You can melt the ice in hot water should you need the key urgently).
Teasing Tips...
Roll a die to determine how many hours you must go until your next orgasm. For an extra challenge, use multiple dice.
Sweet Frustration...
Buy him a hollow strap-on and get him to fuck you with it. The psychological thrill of thrusting inside you, while not being able to feel a thing, is a frustratingly exciting tease.
Working For Orgasms
Make your partner work for their pleasure by allowing them to earn points, which can later be cashed in for rewards. You can assign points for providing a massage or giving you an orgasm.
You can allow your partner to cash in their points for pleasure (like oral sex or an orgasm) by letting them know how many points each pleasurable act will cost them. Alternatively you can convert points into time (For example: 1 point equals one minute of stimulation). The latter is a great way to ensure that your partner is denying themselves. They will want to refrain from cashing in their points too quickly and potentially being left wanting when the timer runs out.
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Drop your partner off in town, or at work and let them know they are not allowed back in the house until they have proof that they masturbated or had an orgasm while out. You could ask for a picture, or check their underwear for ‘proof’.
Teasing Tip...
Roll the dice to determine how many orgasms your partner must give you, before being allowed to orgasm themself.
Teasing Tip...
Give your partner oral sex, but deny them permission to orgasm. They must tell you to stop when they are close. They are allowed to ask you to stop 5 times, after which, they will receive no more stimulation that night.
How Many Strokes Can You Take?
Complete a single stroke over your partner's penis (A stroke counts as both downward and upward movements) then allow him 5 seconds of rest. Next, complete two strokes over his penis and allow him 5 seconds of rest. Continue this game by increasing the number strokes each time you return to stimulation. Challenge him to take X amount of strokes without cumming. If he succeeds, he is allowed a full orgasm, but if he cums too soon, it will be ruined.
Teasing Tips...
To discourage a male from masturbating and give him a painful reminder of your ownership and control over his pleasure, I recommend investing in a CBT device called Mikes Spikes, or Kali's Teeth. Such devices cause pain when erect and make it difficult for him to masturbate or receive pleasure. I only recommend these to males who enjoy a little CBT (Cock and ball torture).
Sweet Frustration...
While watching a movie together, tell your partner you will stimulate them for 10 seconds, every time a certain thing happens on screen. (Examples: Every time you see someone wearing red or every time someone says the word “fuck”). You can make the action as probable or as unlikely as you wish.
The Lucky Dip (Are You Feeling Lucky?)
Cut a sheet of paper into 8 pieces and use these to write down 8 different tease and denial activities. Example:
"Tonight I will edge you with my hand for 30 minutes. You are not allowed to orgasm."
It is up to you to decide the ratio of good, bad and frustrating activities and it is okay to write out duplicate ideas. Once you have them written out, fold the pieces of paper and place them in a bowl. Each night, allow your partner to choose one piece of paper and that shall be their fate for the evening.
Tossing The... Coin.
Tossing a coin is a game of chance. The odds are 50/50 and you can use a simple coin toss to decide any outcome you wish, up to and including the opportunity to have an orgasm that night.
Teasing Tips...
Tell your partner that they will be permitted to orgasm later that night, but only if they edge once every hour until then. (If separated, ask them to send you pictorial proof)
Sweet Frustration...
Give your partner permission to masturbate to orgasm, but before they attempt to do so, use a numbing cream, condoms or ice water to numb their sensitivity. (You can make it more fun by applying the ice every minute) Sit back and watch them struggle to reach orgasm.
Sweet Frustration...
Explain to your partner that if they orgasm, you will not stop stimulating them. This is known as ‘post orgasm torture’ and for a very good reason. Once we reach orgasm, the clitoris and glans of the penis
becomes highly sensitive and it feels quite uncomfortable to continue stimulation at this point. Threaten them with this and watch them try that much harder to not orgasm.
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Give your partner permission to orgasm, but tell them they are not allowed to use their hands, or any sex toys to get there. Watch and giggle as they attempt to hump inanimate objects.
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Use sex toys in front of your partner (or have your partner use them on you) while they are kept in chastity or bondage.
Time is of the Essence
Explain to your partner that for every hour they go without orgasm, you will add 1 second to their timer. (For example) After 3 days, they will have earned 72 seconds on the clock. This time is the amount of seconds they are allowed to masturbate. You can tell your partner when you want to cash in their time, if they do not reach orgasm in the time allowed, then they miss out and the clock will be reset.
Remember, not all of the ideas listed above will suit everyone, but I am sure you will leave this post with many new ideas to keep your juices flowing (or not flowing – in this case). My final advice would be to avoid making any tease and denial game too complicated, or requiring too much effort to follow. It will become tiresome quickly. Finally, make sure you mix it up often; to keep your partner on their toes and never forget that there is only one correct way to enjoy chastity and orgasm denial and that is the way that works best for you both.
Chastity and Orgasm Denial:
Orgasm denial (also known as orgasm control and erotic sexual denial) is a sexual practice in which a person is kept in an elevated state of arousal for extended periods of time, but denied the gratifying release of orgasm.
Tease and denial provides both physical and psychological pleasure, but it is the latter that inspires the majority of players to really indulge their desires. It is a fantasy, an idea that some find incredibly arousing and although some of us may share common themes within our fantasies, our tastes may differ somewhat in the details. When it comes to orgasm denial, an example of this difference is the opposing desires of those who prefer to be given a clearly defined date for their next release and those who get their thrills from not knowing. There are as many different ways to experience orgasm denial as there are people enjoying this kink and this is why it is so important to keep communicating, sharing ideas and ultimately tailoring your tease and denial sessions to suit you both.
To really get the most out of your chastity, or orgasm control experiences, you want to sit down and think about what aspects really turn you and your partner on. Some enthusiasts get a huge kick out of submitting and their fantasy might be having their orgasms controlled by another person, or being told when they are allowed pleasure and in what way it will be given. Some may simply get a huge kick out of the pleasure they feel when kept in a heightened state of arousal and enjoy being edged for a few hours during their sex sessions, while other orgasm control fans may wish to be kept in chastity and be denied for hours, even days at a time. There are those who get a thrill out of being frustrated or humiliated and those who enjoy orgasm denial alone, or in a long distance relationship. As you can see, there are many nuances within the fantasy of orgasm denial and each person will require a different method of teasing. There is not a “One True Way”.
With that being said, a large part of the battle (especially with extended tease and denial sessions.) is having to constantly come up with new and exciting ways to keep the arousal levels high, or the enthusiasm alive. By its very nature, tease and denial does require a little imagination to keep things smouldering. With that in mind, I decided to come up with an article listing lots of ideas to help you and your partner enjoy your orgasm denial experience for a long time to come. The problem was that I had so many ideas, that this post began to turn into a novel. I therefore decided to add the following slider into this post, which contains many ideas for you to incorporate into your own sessions.
Why do men enjoy chastity and orgasm denial?
There are so many different answers to this question. Sexuality is so diverse that there is no “one size fits all” answer, but generally, orgasm denial and chastity is a fantasy, a fetish or a lifestyle choice for the people who enjoy this type of play. Some couples enjoy the power dynamic involved with orgasm denial. The partner in control of the other's pleasure (Who I will refer to as the dominant, for simplicity.) may enjoy having this power and control over another. The submissive partner may be turned on by giving up this control. Some dominants and submissives feel that denial helps focus the attention of the submissive, increasing their desire for intimacy, affection and submission. While this may be the driving force for some, it is worth noting that submission and orgasm denial are two separate desires. You cannot ‘make’ someone submissive through orgasm denial if they genuinely are not submissive by nature or desire anyway. Likewise, D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships do not require orgasm denial for it to be “The one True Way”.
You can still enjoy orgasm denial without being submissive, dominant, or even involved in a BDSM relationship. For these couples, the thrill might be in the tease. There can be nothing sexier, surely, than teasing your partner for hours, even days, knowing that they are desperately turned on and ready to explode, and keeping them in this heightened state of arousal for a while, knowing that when they do eventually climax, it will be all the more intense, satisfying and rewarding for you both. In that period of teasing, every touch feels much more intense and every thought gets the blood pumping. Many people enjoy being teased. Some only enjoy it for a few hours, before negative frustration kicks in, while others find bliss in extending this teasing over days. There is no right or wrong way to play. Only what feels good for you and your partner. Chastity and orgasm denial can also be a lifestyle choice. For example, the Taoist belief is that men should withhold their ejaculate and this will energise and fortify him.
How can I experience orgasm denial?
As with any desires, it is important to communicate your thoughts with your partner, if you want to enjoy them together. If you are comfortable talking openly about your fantasies, you can grow together. Never force your desires onto another though. If your partner is not interested, you have to respect that decision.
A great way to introduce orgasm denial into your relationship is to experiment together with teasing and edging. Rather than partaking in sexual activity with orgasm as the main goal, the journey is now the highlight. You can experiment, finding new ways to tease your partner until their arousal levels are very high, and then reduce that stimulation, allowing their arousal to build and fall, like a wave, until they can’t take it anymore.. If your partner craves orgasm denial, and understands what they are letting themselves in for, you can take it further and deny them that final release, but it is worth remembering that orgasm denial can produce strong emotions and if your partner is new to this type of play, it could be too intense if you jump straight into the deep end. I would suggest that you do not make any rules at first and just experiment together until you discover the most suitable form of denial for you.
Methods of orgasm denial:
Edging:
Edging, as the name suggests is the act of taking yourself, or your lover, to the brink of orgasm, to the point just before control is lost, and stopping all stimulation. If your timing is right, the sensation of impending orgasm will fade and orgasm will not occur. Edging can be very intense and it does take a little practice to master, but once you become aware of your own point of no return, (The moment where you have begun to tip over and have lost control, meaning you cannot stop the orgasm.) it becomes easier to know exactly when to stop all stimulation. Of course, accidents still happen. You can practise edging as little or as often as you wish and edging your partner in sessions, over a period of days, weeks or months can leave them feeling constantly aroused, frustrated and in need of a release.
Ruined orgasm:
A ruined orgasm, as the name suggests, is an orgasm that was not enjoyable and these occur when you push yourself, or your partner just a fraction beyond the point of no return and then stop all stimulation or cause discomfort. (See “How to ruin an orgasm” below) Ruined orgasms do not feel as intense or as satisfying as full orgasms do. Often there will be less, or no, orgasmic contractions and the orgasmic sensations will feel weak and fade away very quickly. Men may still ejaculate semen, but often it will dribble or ooze out, rather than squirt. The person on the receiving end of a ruined orgasm will often enter their refractory period; the recovery phase normally associated with a normal orgasm, where the penis, or clitoris is too sensitive to touch and men may lose their erection. In some cases it will be possible to continue stimulation after a ruined orgasm, allowing you to continue and build towards orgasm again. It is therefore possible to give your partner numerous ruined orgasms in one session. Ruined orgasms will leave your submissive feeling frustratingly unsatisfied and are often used by a Dominant as a method of milking a submissive male, allowing him to release semen, without the pleasure of orgasm.
How can I ruin an orgasm?
Stopping all stimulation just after your submissive hits the ‘point of no return’ is one of the easiest, safest ways to provide an unsatisfying, weak orgasm with few muscle contractions. The hard part is finding the precise moment to stop stimulation. If you stop too soon, your partner will ride the edge, but not tip over. Worse still (For those of us hoping to deny pleasure) is stimulating your partner for a few seconds too long, which will allow them to experience a more enjoyable orgasm than you wanted to provide. To ruin an orgasm using this technique, you can ask your partner to tell you when they are right on the edge. This gives you the power to hold them there, or push them over with one or two more strokes. This method is great for getting started, but might not be ideal if you do not want your partner to be in control. After all, some cheeky sub may allow you to continue stimulation for a few seconds too long, because they want the orgasm. With practice, you will become a master at reading your partner's verbal and physical cues that tell you orgasm is approaching, allowing you to control things fully.
Another way to ruin an orgasm is through pain. (Be sure to communicate with your partner and agree to this before you try these techniques) Slapping or flicking the clitoris, glans of the penis or the testicles, is not only shocking, but uncomfortable too and if this is done at the point of no return, it can be effective at ruining an orgasm in most people. Just be sure to slap hard enough to cause a little pain, otherwise you are just playing with it and we don’t want that, do we? It is also worth bearing in mind that for some people, pain IS pleasure and if they generally enjoy genital pain, then this method could cause them to have a very enjoyable orgasm.
With some males, restricting the release of his semen will frustratingly ruin his orgasm and can feel uncomfortable. (It should not be painful.) Ruining his orgasm in this way can be achieved by either squeezing the penis around the base, or just underneath the glans, or putting your finger or thumb over his urethra at the point of no return, effectively blocking the flow of semen. Keep holding until all muscle contractions and spasms have stopped and those orgasmic sensations have ended. When you remove your hand, or finger, a small amount of semen may dribble from his penis, while some of the semen may have gone into the bladder (Retrograde ejaculation) The semen is passed out when he urinates, which may give his urine a cloudy appearance. There are mixed opinions on whether forcing retrograde ejaculation is safe. I have read articles from some professionals stating it will not cause any problems and others saying it could. I am no doctor, so do your own research on this and decide for yourself whether this practice is safe for you or your partner.
Some tease and denial ideas to get you started:
There are many games you can play with dice. You could assign each number on the dice to mean something. A three could mean that they have to edge 3 times and then stop for the day. A 5 could signify no touching allowed at all and a four could allow them an orgasm. Simply roll it every day before you play. I recommend buying two dice, if you fancy being more creative and reducing their chances of orgasm. You can also play this game with a pack of cards.
Allow your partner the opportunity to orgasm, but only from certain stimulation, like a feather, or by humping the arm of a chair. Just be aware that with an exceptionally aroused partner, they might actually be able to achieve this. Set them a certain amount of time and if you ensure that the stimulation (or time) is not quite enough, it will lead to a frustrating attempt or even a ruined orgasm on their part.
Using a timer, you could allow your partner the opportunity to orgasm, but only if they reach orgasm within X amount of time. (Ensure to count down the seconds or minutes out loud occasionally, to put the pressure on and break their focus.) You could even allow them to “earn” time throughout the week, for good deeds or tasks completed, or allow them to earn 30 seconds or 1 minute per day that passes and let them choose when to cash in their time. They will want to ensure they have stored up enough time and so will effectively be denying themselves.
Tell your partner that they can’t stimulate their genitals in any way, until they have given you X amount of orgasms first. Just remember that the higher the count, the longer they wait and they will be keen to pleasure you often.
Games to get you started:
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Give your partner permission to orgasm, but only allow them to do this while masturbating to porn that they would find humiliating or a major turn off. (An example would be to ask a straight male to watch male-on-male porn) If he reaches orgasm, tease him, if not, make him wait until next time.
Sweet Frustration...
If your partner wears a chastity device, place the key into a large bottle of water and freeze it the day before they are due for release. When the time comes, hand the frozen bottle over and tell them that they can let themselves out, just as soon as the ice melts and the key has been freed (You can melt the ice in hot water should you need the key urgently).
Teasing Tips...
Roll a die to determine how many hours you must go until your next orgasm. For an extra challenge, use multiple dice.
Sweet Frustration...
Buy him a hollow strap-on and get him to fuck you with it. The psychological thrill of thrusting inside you, while not being able to feel a thing, is a frustratingly exciting tease.
Working For Orgasms
Make your partner work for their pleasure by allowing them to earn points, which can later be cashed in for rewards. You can assign points for providing a massage or giving you an orgasm.
You can allow your partner to cash in their points for pleasure (like oral sex or an orgasm) by letting them know how many points each pleasurable act will cost them. Alternatively you can convert points into time (For example: 1 point equals one minute of stimulation). The latter is a great way to ensure that your partner is denying themselves. They will want to refrain from cashing in their points too quickly and potentially being left wanting when the timer runs out.
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Drop your partner off in town, or at work and let them know they are not allowed back in the house until they have proof that they masturbated or had an orgasm while out. You could ask for a picture, or check their underwear for ‘proof’.
Teasing Tip...
Roll the dice to determine how many orgasms your partner must give you, before being allowed to orgasm themself.
Teasing Tip...
Give your partner oral sex, but deny them permission to orgasm. They must tell you to stop when they are close. They are allowed to ask you to stop 5 times, after which, they will receive no more stimulation that night.
How Many Strokes Can You Take?
Complete a single stroke over your partner's penis (A stroke counts as both downward and upward movements) then allow him 5 seconds of rest. Next, complete two strokes over his penis and allow him 5 seconds of rest. Continue this game by increasing the number strokes each time you return to stimulation. Challenge him to take X amount of strokes without cumming. If he succeeds, he is allowed a full orgasm, but if he cums too soon, it will be ruined.
Teasing Tips...
To discourage a male from masturbating and give him a painful reminder of your ownership and control over his pleasure, I recommend investing in a CBT device called Mikes Spikes, or Kali's Teeth. Such devices cause pain when erect and make it difficult for him to masturbate or receive pleasure. I only recommend these to males who enjoy a little CBT (Cock and ball torture).
Sweet Frustration...
While watching a movie together, tell your partner you will stimulate them for 10 seconds, every time a certain thing happens on screen. (Examples: Every time you see someone wearing red or every time someone says the word “fuck”). You can make the action as probable or as unlikely as you wish.
The Lucky Dip (Are You Feeling Lucky?)
Cut a sheet of paper into 8 pieces and use these to write down 8 different tease and denial activities. Example:
"Tonight I will edge you with my hand for 30 minutes. You are not allowed to orgasm."
It is up to you to decide the ratio of good, bad and frustrating activities and it is okay to write out duplicate ideas. Once you have them written out, fold the pieces of paper and place them in a bowl. Each night, allow your partner to choose one piece of paper and that shall be their fate for the evening.
Tossing The... Coin.
Tossing a coin is a game of chance. The odds are 50/50 and you can use a simple coin toss to decide any outcome you wish, up to and including the opportunity to have an orgasm that night.
Teasing Tips...
Tell your partner that they will be permitted to orgasm later that night, but only if they edge once every hour until then. (If separated, ask them to send you pictorial proof)
Sweet Frustration...
Give your partner permission to masturbate to orgasm, but before they attempt to do so, use a numbing cream, condoms or ice water to numb their sensitivity. (You can make it more fun by applying the ice every minute) Sit back and watch them struggle to reach orgasm.
Sweet Frustration...
Explain to your partner that if they orgasm, you will not stop stimulating them. This is known as ‘post orgasm torture’ and for a very good reason. Once we reach orgasm, the clitoris and glans of the penis
becomes highly sensitive and it feels quite uncomfortable to continue stimulation at this point. Threaten them with this and watch them try that much harder to not orgasm.
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Give your partner permission to orgasm, but tell them they are not allowed to use their hands, or any sex toys to get there. Watch and giggle as they attempt to hump inanimate objects.
Orgasm Denial For Humiliation Fans...
Use sex toys in front of your partner (or have your partner use them on you) while they are kept in chastity or bondage.
Time is of the Essence
Explain to your partner that for every hour they go without orgasm, you will add 1 second to their timer. (For example) After 3 days, they will have earned 72 seconds on the clock. This time is the amount of seconds they are allowed to masturbate. You can tell your partner when you want to cash in their time, if they do not reach orgasm in the time allowed, then they miss out and the clock will be reset.
Remember, not all of the ideas listed above will suit everyone, but I am sure you will leave this post with many new ideas to keep your juices flowing (or not flowing – in this case). My final advice would be to avoid making any tease and denial game too complicated, or requiring too much effort to follow. It will become tiresome quickly. Finally, make sure you mix it up often; to keep your partner on their toes and never forget that there is only one correct way to enjoy chastity and orgasm denial and that is the way that works best for you both.
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